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Forgetting Isn’t Healing: Lessons from Elie Wiesel ( & Telling & Hearing the Truth

In my college youth, I was quick to want to “get beyond” race. I apologized for what I thought was an unmanly outburst in class. I admonished myself for “not being able to get past it.” I remember him leaning in and asking why I would want to forget. Memory, he said, wasn’t just for […]

Childhood Adversity Makes Us Unhealthy Adults & What We Can Do – Part 2

To read part one of this story, go here: It was in October 2014, and it was a one-hour conversation I had with Lisa Vasile, a nurse practitioner of functional medicine at Visions Healthcare in Needham, MA. We sat by her desk. She didn’t poke or prod my body. She didn’t record my weight, height […]

How Childhood Adversity Makes Us Unhealthy Adults: Part 1

Heidi Aylward spent much of 2015 going to doctor’s appointments for back and joint pain, dizziness, swelling of the legs and feet, high blood pressure, elevated platelets, heart palpitations and extreme fatigue. 2016 isn’t looking much better. She’s worn a heart monitor, had a bone marrow biopsy and continues to have blood work. She holds […]

Rick Hanson: Practical Neuro-Plasticity without a PhD

Oh how I love Rick Hanson. I love how he helps my healing and my parenting. He’s taught me so much about the ABC’s of being human, being compassionate with fear and healing with mindfulness. He has a series of free podcast talks, Being Well, on Soundcloud which are excellent. He combines science, spirituality and […]

Loneliness Licked by Love

Don’t surrender you loneliness so quickly. Let it cut more deep.   Let it ferment and season you as few human or even divine ingredient can.   Something missing in me tonight Has made my eyes so soft,   my voice so tender, my need of God absolutely clear. -Hafiz   Don’t surrender your loneliness […]

Death Address

For the first time in my life I know where my father is. I love having a dead dad. Death is an address he can’t change. In death, my father is no longer homeless, violent, alcholic and unwell. He is no longer wandering the streets. He’s not cold or hungry. He isn’t drunk and baking […]

Trauma-Informed Parenting: What Adoptive & Foster Parents Can Help Teach, Part 2

There are many adults with low ACE scores who parent children with high ACE scores. They are some of the best parents I know. They are often feisty and fierce advocates who tirelessly seek out support, strategies and solutions to make the lives of their children easier and better. The ones I admire most have […]

Trauma-Informed Parenting: What Adoptive & Foster Parents Can Help Teach, Part 1

People sometimes feel bad for adoptive parents. They think maybe our kids say, “You’re not my real parents” on a daily basis and that we go to bed crying each night because we can’t have kids of our “own.”Do they think we had to “settle” for adoption or fostering? Do they worry we feel less than as […]

Survivor-Led Advocacy Initiatives (1)

I saw how infrequently people who are supposedly being served are never even asked, “What do you need or need?” by those giving what they consider to be help.

MAWD Annual Conference PowerPoint

For the amazing and hard-working people at the MAWD Annual Conference in Boston. In case you want to follow along during the presentation or just reference names or books or resources. Wic directors mawd from Christine White  

Paying Attention was the Hardest Part of Early Parenting

I used to sneak away for a hot bath as often as possible when my daughter was in the need-me-every-minute years. I’d soak long past when the water went cold and I felt guilty at times but sometimes I needed to be alone. To read poetry. To have some physical space. To exhale. I didn’t […]

Do You Remember Me? #FacesOfPTSD

I got a poem today. It was sent over email. It is a punch. Healing and sad. Both. I got it from someone I went to high school with. We sat in class together sometimes. It was not a big school. I had no idea. Not then. Not in the decades since. Not ever. Until […]

#FacesOfPTSD: What is This Campaign All About

A quick Google image search will lead you to believe that the majority of those living with PTSD are men in uniform, when the reality is that women are twice as likely to develop it as men, and it can be acquired in a number of ways. Not all wars take place on the battle field.

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