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Loneliness Licked by Love

Don’t surrender you loneliness so quickly. Let it cut more deep.   Let it ferment and season you as few human or even divine ingredient can.   Something missing in me tonight Has made my eyes so soft,   my voice so tender, my need of God absolutely clear. -Hafiz   Don’t surrender your loneliness […]

Death Address

For the first time in my life I know where my father is. I love having a dead dad. Death is an address he can’t change. In death, my father is no longer homeless, violent, alcholic and unwell. He is no longer wandering the streets. He’s not cold or hungry. He isn’t drunk and baking […]

Trauma-Informed Parenting: What Adoptive & Foster Parents Can Help Teach, Part 2

There are many adults with low ACE scores who parent children with high ACE scores. They are some of the best parents I know. They are often feisty and fierce advocates who tirelessly seek out support, strategies and solutions to make the lives of their children easier and better. The ones I admire most have […]

Trauma-Informed Parenting: What Adoptive & Foster Parents Can Help Teach, Part 1

People sometimes feel bad for adoptive parents. They think maybe our kids say, “You’re not my real parents” on a daily basis and that we go to bed crying each night because we can’t have kids of our “own.”Do they think we had to “settle” for adoption or fostering? Do they worry we feel less than as […]

Survivor-Led Advocacy Initiatives (1)

I saw how infrequently people who are supposedly being served are never even asked, “What do you need or need?” by those giving what they consider to be help.

MAWD Annual Conference PowerPoint

For the amazing and hard-working people at the MAWD Annual Conference in Boston. In case you want to follow along during the presentation or just reference names or books or resources. Wic directors mawd from Christine White  

Paying Attention was the Hardest Part of Early Parenting

I used to sneak away for a hot bath as often as possible when my daughter was in the need-me-every-minute years. I’d soak long past when the water went cold and I felt guilty at times but sometimes I needed to be alone. To read poetry. To have some physical space. To exhale. I didn’t […]

Do You Remember Me? #FacesOfPTSD

I got a poem today. It was sent over email. It is a punch. Healing and sad. Both. I got it from someone I went to high school with. We sat in class together sometimes. It was not a big school. I had no idea. Not then. Not in the decades since. Not ever. Until […]

#FacesOfPTSD: What is This Campaign All About

A quick Google image search will lead you to believe that the majority of those living with PTSD are men in uniform, when the reality is that women are twice as likely to develop it as men, and it can be acquired in a number of ways. Not all wars take place on the battle field.

#FacesOfPTSD / PTSD is Not a He

What is the #FacesOfPTSD Project?A

A social media campaign where people who identify as having, or have had PTSD, share photos of themselves. Any photo. Feeling sad, show us. Feeling blah, show us. Feeling happy, show us that too. Just because we have suffered more than most doesn’t mean we are never happy. Just make sure you add the hashtag #FacesOfPTSD so we can all follow along, and hopefully change the landscape of PTSD online search.

Abuse is the Story of the Abuser – Not Me!

I spoke with someone today who was relieved to learn that she can write without writing about the details of her trauma – and still find healing. “Abuse isn’t my story. Abuse is the story of those that abused me. How I live with post-traumatic stress, as well as how I parent and pay my […]


My pets totally get the importance of rest. My dog and kitty turn it all over and surrender to sleep. I LOVE sleep and how restorative it can be. Still, I often forget to submit to what I need. When I first divorced and just could not possibly imagine how the rest of life would […]

What Gives Google? PTSD Search Results

How come when I Google ‘PTSD’ this is what I get? Where are the women? It’s especially troubling considering this: “Women are more than twice as likely to develop PTSD than men (10% for women and 4% for men).” Twice as likely. That’s not me just saying so that is from the Department of Veteran’s Affairs […]

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