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He Met Me Warm

I forgot you were my best friend. I forgot I could say, “I’m tired, stressed and overwhelmed.” On the walk to your door I was building up a wall, resentments, expectations, my own fabricated failings I was defending myself against before an attack was even launched. My chest was tight, constricted and I could barely […]

Hope & Healing EVENT: March 16th, 2017

Come on by if you are in the area! It will be my first time on the island and I’m excited (and a wee bit nervous).  Hope & Healing Coping with Trauma and Finding Personal Well Being Thursday, March 16, 2017 • 4:00–6:00pm LGI | Nantucket High School Christine Cissy White is a writer, health […]

Adoption Lifebooks, Beth O’Malley & Other Stuff Not Shown in This Is Us

This Is Us. It’s one of my favorite new shows. I love it for many reasons. One is because it has a main character who is an adoptee in the middle of a reunion with his birth family while still close with his adoptive family. Neither the birth family or the adoptive family is demonized […]

Mothering at the Edge of Change

I sit the edge of my bed folding socks and memories. A middle-aged mother. I am in so many kinds of transition. Some mornings, I hear her feet soft on carpeted stairs, see her long hair rolling down her back almost touching the hips which have started to form. All the years I gathered her […]

Putting resilience and resilience surveys under the microscope

“Resilience is a message of hope,” says Debbie Alleyne, a child welfare specialist at the Center for Resilient Children at Devereux Advanced Behavioral Health, located in Villanova, PA.“It is important for everyone to know that no matter their experience, there is always hope for a positive outcome. Risk does not define destiny.” Sounds fantastic. But […]

Unmasking the Wounded Healer; Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Some inspiration from art and words found on You Tube today.  

Don’t Tell Us Marching Doesn’t Matter

 As we arrived at the Common Beth remembered summers when we stripped the girls down to diapers at the Frog Pond. I thought of the bouncy ground at the playground where the girls chased, climbed and crawled. We were monkey bar moms spotting each other in the days when there wasn’t a minute to pee, […]

The Silenced Child by Claudia Gold, MD – GEMS for Parents

It’s understandable that we are tad bit confused sometimes.
Listening, tuning in, holding space and all “that stuff” is learned by doing, learned by practicing and so, if we’ve lacked this as children we need a whole heck of a lot of practice as adults.

Carrie Fisher Was a Warrior Who Left a Paper Trail

Carrie Fisher was a force and it wasn’t because of a movie role, no matter how loved it is and was. And while I’m sad and shocked that she died at only 60, I am a little relieved, as well at how. I’m glad she it was her heart that stopped and not an overdose or […]

Divorce During Christmas

My home was flooded just weeks before my divorce was final. The ocean spilled over the sea wall and headed down the street carrying telephone poles, patio furniture and boat parts. It was 2 a.m. and I was in my bedroom with the cat as my daughter was with her father on one of her […]

Show & Tell

Show don’t tell is the first bit of advice almost every writer gets. Don’t give facts if words can form an image. Don’t say a song was fast-paced if words can tap quickly, instead, across the page. It’s good advice but when it comes to ACEs we need both. We need to tell and show […]

 Parenting with PTSD:  Breaking the Cycle without Falling Apart

This event happened on December 16, 2016 thanks to Riverside Trauma. I’m so grateful that they sought out and were interested in the perspective of a trauma survivor who is a parent, writer and shares from a first-person perspective. It’s so rare and what so many of us have craved. I’ll share here what this […]

50 Looks Like This

“You don’t look 50,” my daughter said. I couldn’t hide the smile. I looked up and into the rearview mirror as if to say, “Well done.” I approved more of a myself for a minute. My years, hidden, and gravity somehow defied. “You don’t look (fill in any age over 30).” It starts early. We do it […]

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