If you are coming to this page, you may not be feeling sunny, cheery and beachy. That’s why this photo is here.
Good still exists in the world no matter how bad you are feeling in this moment. I found this sign on a beach one day and had to take a picture. Now you have just found the same sign. And it’s true.
Imagine sitting on that sand and feeling the warmth of the sun on your hair or skin.
Imagine sipping in clear and fresh ocean water and letting yourself get nourished by the blue in the sky.
The feeling that you are lost is a feeling not a permanent state of being. Feeling triggered means you are in post-traumatic stress which I know is awful but also won’t last. Hang in there.
I am a frugal person by nature and got tired of going to a therapist to tell me the same things time and time again. When despairing or anxious I would forget, “This is just a feeling and it will pass” and was unable to surrender, embrace or breathe through it with any grace or ease on my own.
Yet, what I needed to feel better was predictable. I needed to hear, “This will pass,” and “The feeling that it will never end is just a feeling,” or “You are safe.”
I needed to hear those same things every time.
They brought relief each and every time.
But I kept forgetting that because that’s what happens when you are post-traumatically stressed out. You aren’t thinking clear and calm. And sometimes you need to hear or read something in a voice not your own because you can’t effectively reassure or soothe while afraid.
Anyone with post-traumatic stress knows wanting it to feel better, fast and yesterday. We’ve all had times when we want to run away, find a cure or a fix or something to dull, numb or obliterate feelings or symptoms.
That probably means you are over whelmed. When you’re overwhelmed it’s hard to feel wise, introspective or grounded.
Stop and take a breath.
Place a hand on your belly and just remind yourself to breath.
Can you feel your belly move at all? Keep doing that.
What has soothed you in the past?
Remember, the saying “This too shall pass” wasn’t created by someone who had easy feeling after easy feeling going too quickly.
When you feel frozen or symptomatic it’s hard to believe you ever felt different than this or that anyone can relate.
Others have felt this. You probably have felt it before.
You deserve support and concern and regard. Your own and from others.
Be as gentle with yourself as you would be to a loved one feeling precisely what you are feeling.
And if you want, try writing a soothing note to yourself? What would steady, calm or inspire you right now?
If you wish, continue reading letters, finding inspiration on the other pages or through other websites and resources.
You deserve the support you need.